Changing Traditions: The Link Between Wedding Speeches and Domestic Violence in Fiji

Recent research suggests that traditional iTaukei wedding speeches may inadvertently contribute to domestic violence by placing control of women within their husband’s family structure. Avelina Rokoduru, a doctoral candidate at the University of Otago, points out that phrases like “she is now your daughter” formalize a transfer of responsibility that can legitimize violence when women are perceived as failing in their new roles.

In her study titled “Masculinities and Gender-Based Violence (GBV) in Fiji: The Perceptions of iTaukei (Indigenous Fijian) Men,” Rokoduru interviewed 31 iTaukei men, uncovering that these wedding statements reinforce expectations of obedience and scrutiny for wives. She noted that such language allows for “perpetual censorship” of women’s behavior, contributing to a dynamic that can normalize violence within relationships.

One of the focus group participants shared how economic disparities—where women may earn more than their husbands—can lead to conflict, resulting in violent confrontations. This reflects a critical challenge within contemporary iTaukei society, wherein traditional expectations clash with realities of modern relationships.

However, Rokoduru remains optimistic about the potential for change. She argues that modifying the language used in wedding speeches and traditional rituals can help reshape perceptions and behaviors surrounding gender roles. This presents an opportunity for cultural evolution that could empower women and promote healthier relationships.

This dialogue aligns with a broader movement in Fiji aimed at addressing domestic violence, where influential voices, including government officials and community leaders, are advocating for increased male participation in discussions around GBV. With continued efforts toward education and awareness, there is hope for positive cultural transformation that fosters respect and compassion across communities. The engagement of men in challenging archaic norms, as highlighted in earlier studies, suggests a potential pathway toward safer environments for women and children.

As Fiji continues to confront the crisis of domestic violence, the gradual shift in perspectives among men and community engagement evokes a promising narrative of resilience and reform in the fight against gender-based violence.