Many siblings go through fluctuating relationships during their younger years, particularly in their teenage years. However, as they mature and leave their childhood homes to start their own families, they often begin to regard one another as equals and close friends.
Research indicates that a positive relationship among siblings in early adulthood contributes to “greater resilience” in old age, reducing feelings of “loneliness, anxiety, and depression.” This phenomenon is exemplified in the lives of three siblings from Tukavesi, a village located in Buca Bay between the districts of Tunuloa and Cakaudrove.
Ninety-two-year-old Aseri Tavuna Vakabua resides with his younger sister, 88-year-old Miriama Maiwaidranu Vakabua, while their sister, 84-year-old Vika Vakabua, lives nearby with her daughter. Vika, despite living apart, keeps her heart close to her elder siblings.
The siblings attribute their strong bond to their family and religious upbringing, shaped by Christian teachings of love and kindness. In a world where envy and resentment can create rifts among family members, the communication and support between the Vakabua siblings stands as an inspiring example.
“We live together. It can be challenging at times due to our ages and distinct personalities, but we must care for one another as siblings,” Miriama shared. She takes special care of Aseri, who has been frail lately, ensuring he eats nutritious meals on time.
“My main concern is his well-being. Last week, he was unwell, and I had to provide him with herbal medicine to help him recover,” she said. Miriama relies on herbal remedies sourced from the forest surrounding Tukavesi, expressing a strong belief in their efficacy over modern medicine.
“There was a time he needed surgery, but someone advised me to use leaves from losilosi, wavoti, wasasalai, and kaile,” she recalled. “The herbs worked, and now I give them to him whenever he has stomach problems. At 92, he is still with us.”
Vika contributes by preparing and delivering meals to her siblings daily, feeling no fatigue in this commitment. “I don’t keep track of time; I take food to them as soon as it’s ready. I pray each day for the strength to continue serving and feeding my older siblings,” she explained.
On the day of the visit, Vika was preparing rice and fried eggplant for lunch, emphasizing the importance of quality in her cooking. “I aim to give them the best food possible, so I often prepare boiled meals, but today I chose fried eggplant for variety,” she noted.
Once an active fisherwoman, Vika now focuses on growing her own food, having embraced a lifestyle of fresh, homegrown produce. “Our upbringing taught us to cultivate the land and eat healthily. My diet has transformed over the years, and I now primarily consume vegetarian meals,” she stated.
Aseri credits his longevity to wise lifestyle choices. “At 92, I’m still alive because I made good decisions. I avoided alcohol and rarely smoked,” he advised, urging younger generations to prioritize healthy living and self-care.
For Miriama, her spirituality plays a significant role in her health. “I regularly read my Bible, even without glasses. My faith gives me strength and joy, contributing to my long life,” she affirmed. She also prays for her sisters, recognizing the effort Vika puts into caring for them at 84 years old.
“The love and dedication she shows us is a remarkable commitment,” Miriama noted. The story of the Vakabua siblings illustrates how family shapes one’s values and character, demonstrating that siblings raised in a loving environment can foster deep care and support for one another throughout their lives.
While sibling relationships can be complex and ever-changing, strong foundations built on love, respect, kindness, and empathy can lead to rewarding and meaningful life experiences.