Many siblings undergo fluctuating relationships during their younger years, particularly in adolescence. However, as they mature and leave their childhood homes to establish families of their own, these siblings often come to see each other as equals and close friends. Research has suggested that maintaining a warm bond between siblings in early adulthood can lead to “greater resilience” in later years, with reduced feelings of “loneliness, anxiety, and depression.”
This concept is exemplified by three siblings from the village of Tukavesi, located in Buca Bay between the districts of Tunuloa and Cakaudrove. Aseri Tavuna Vakabua, at 92 years old, lives with his younger widowed sister Miriama Maiwaidranu Vakabua, who is 88. Their youngest sister Vika Vakabua, 84, resides just a few houses away near the beach with her daughter but maintains a strong connection with her elder siblings.
The siblings attribute their enduring bond to the familial and religious values instilled in them, guided by the Christian principles of love and kindness. In a time when resentment and envy can often drive families apart, the story of the Vakabua siblings is truly inspiring.
“We live together. It’s challenging at times due to our ages and differing personalities, but we must care for one another; we are siblings,” Miriama remarked. She ensures Aseri, who has been frail and unwell lately, receives proper nourishment and attention to maintain his health.
“I’m the one who is always with him, and seeing him in pain worries me. Just last week, he was ill, and I had to give him herbal medicine to ensure he was alright.” Miriama has easy access to herbal remedies from the forest surrounding Tukavesi, often preferring them over modern medicine.
Vika plays a crucial role in the siblings’ lives by cooking and delivering meals every day without fail, viewing it as her obligation and a way to honor her elder siblings. “I don’t keep track of time, so as soon as my dish is ready, I take it to them. I pray for strength every day to continue helping feed them,” Vika said.
On the day of the visit, Vika was preparing lunch, specifically rice and fried eggplant, emphasizing her commitment to providing quality meals. While in her youth, she depended on fishing to feed her family, age has now limited her energy, compelling her to focus on garden produce instead.
“I grew up in a family where my parents taught us to work the land and eat healthily, so I’ve always preferred fresh fruits and vegetables,” Vika explained.
Aseri believes that longevity is influenced by the lifestyle choices individuals make. “I’m 92 years old because I made good decisions. I’ve never been fond of drinking alcohol or smoking,” he stated, encouraging others to avoid unhealthy habits and focus on nutritious diets.
Miriama attributes her long life not just to her healthy practices but also to her spirituality. “I read my Bible, even without glasses. Praying and engaging with the Word of God gives me strength and happiness.”
As she prays for good health for both herself and Aseri, Miriama also includes Vika in her prayers, recognizing her younger sister’s daily commitment to their well-being.
The Vakabua siblings illustrate the profound impact that family can have on personal values and character development. Those raised in a loving and supportive environment are often better equipped to share and express love and care throughout life’s challenges. Although sibling relationships can be complex and evolving, grounding them in universal values such as love, respect, and kindness can lead to a life filled with unimaginable blessings.